Friday, April 16, 2010

Slaying Dragons

Yesterday I did something I have never done before.

And no it wasn't skydiving naked.


No, yesterday I went to therapy. As me...with my own hair.


For real!

I am not kidding.

My hair has been a major, huge, astronomical concern.

Now other then routine trims to keep it manageable and neat. I haven't had it aggressively cut in over two years. But it did need that time to grow out since I kept it so darn short.

Seriously the marines would have been proud.

Today it is around three inches below my ears and sitting right around my jaw line.

But other then styling it to try and continue to look like a guy. I just didn't know what could been done with it if I wanted to appear as a girl.

I figured at this point with me being so close to making changes along with knowing that I am planning on full time. I wanted to get a sense of what I had.

So yesterday I had setup an appointment with my stylist. Headed out there right after work. Changed at the salon, handled everything but the hair.

I had this all timed to give myself time to get ready, give her time to style it and head out the door in time to make my therapy session.

The results?

OMG!!! I couldn't believe that it was my own hair. She blew me away giving me this mildly puffed bob look. Along with doing a wonderfully skillful job of disguising the mild flaws that I have.

I was simply stunned when she was done.

I cannot thank her enough ever for all that she has done for me.

Not to mention having my own hair was extremely liberating. It was everything I expected and more. My therapist noticed the same thing, that I was much freer with my head motions and gestures. She also loved the style. Wasn't what she expected, but she thought I looked extremely cute with it like that.

The point is the morning I feel like this isn't going to be an issue, yes a little work will still have to be done to correct some issues. Though it isn't like I am reconstructing a full head of hair, all I feel I need is two corners and a revision in the front, then I should be free to use my hair all the time and wear it how I want.

Thus I am not as worried as I once was. I large weight has been lifted and I feel worlds better about it today.

Things are simply falling into place and I have much more confidence that I well get to physically become the person I have always wanted to be.


Melissa said...

The really great thing about having a reasonably full head of hair, is that even if you have a bit of a receding hair line, you can always where your hair in bangs, and no one will ever know. Bangs also do a great job of camouflaging a high forehead, or a furrowed brow.

Glad to hear you had such a positive experience, Kelli! Your hairdresser must be a real sweetheart, letting you change at the salon. Lucky you! It's so nice to have good friends like that.

Melissa XX

Kelli Bennett said...

Yes she is, but and I know I have mentioned it here this is also the woman who initially taught me makeup. She actually quietly works with CDs and Trans clients.

Though she did tell me that of all the clients she ever has had. I stuck out as being different from the moment I walk in the first time.

Since then she has become a dear friend and we get along famously. We do go out socially now and again when we can get out schedules to sync up.

Jerica Truax said...

I know, isn't it great??? =) I got my hair styled just before I came out at work and loved it. It was so freeing to not have to wear a wig. It was a huge confidence booster....I guess because it was one less fake thing out of the way.


<3 Jerica