Tuesday, October 4, 2011

No Dinner With Mom?

As you might now if you have been following along. I have been having dinner with my mom once a month. Mostly this is due to the fact that as of right now I am not welcome around my father. His issue and Mom is working on him but she knows it will take time.

She surprised me during our last dinner when she said she didn't care if my Dad ever acknowledge me as his child or even daughter but she did want him to be able to acknowledge me as a person. She is determined on that part and figures if she can get him that far the rest might fall in line behind it.

Kudos to Mom for at least starting there and working her way up. Who knows if anything will ever happen.

Now we had been meeting once a month on the first Wednesday of that month. However she called me during the week before last weekend to ask if I could move our meeting to the Wednesday after.

I am ok with that as it does occasionally need to happen.

Know this though that up until now I we had been meeting mid week on a Wednesday and since I work south of where I live and she lives north of where I live, I was generally racing out of work to meet her around six pm. Which meant I had always been doing the work/boy mode thing.

Over the weekend I thought about this and on Sunday night I called her back.

I asked her if she would be interested in doing something different than dinner.

She said sure.

I then asked her if she wanted to go shopping either this Saturday or next which ever worked better for her.

She said she would love too.

I next asked her: "You do realize why I am asking this and what is going to happen if we do, right?"

"I am going to meet my Daughter?"

"Yes. Are you ok with this?"

"Of course I was going to have to meet you at some point. I have been looking forward to it."

"Lol why didn't you say so? We could have done this earlier."

"I was waiting for you to ask."

LOL! I told her I had been waiting for her to suggest she was ready. We laughed about it and set it for the second Saturday.

So in just under two weeks I am going shopping with my mom. And she is going to met me for the very first time.

I am excite, nervous and scared all at the same time. The good news was my mom seemed very enthusiastic about it and willing. Which helps.

We will see how it goes and I am sure there will be a story.

I mean how could there not be?

6 comments:

Cynthia said...

Hi Kelli,

This is a wonderful post. I am really happy for you and your mother. It sounds like she is going above and beyond with her support and trying to bring your father around.

I will be praying for you and she to have a terrific girls day out shopping. Have a blast of a day with your mother and we will all be waiting to hear about it.

Hugs and Prayers,

Cynthia XX

Becca said...

An important step. Can well understand your nerves. Hope (think it will) goes well for you both

Becca

Kelly said...

Very exciting! But more importantly, who has to pay for dinner? (Someone has to ask the important questions here...) ;c)

Congratulations!

== K

Jessica Lyn said...

I'm excited and I'm not even going shopping with you! I'm so glad your mom has been taking this that well (wish my mom was at that point) can't wait to hear how it goes.

Kelli Bennett said...

@Kelly, LOL when we have dinner we alternate who pays. This time we are meeting in the morning so I think it will be lunch and I do believe it is my turn.

Kelly said...

Hmm. I'd check with the judges to see if the meeting time overrides the alternating payment method. Just trying to save you some $$$ here; that Fountains of Wayne catalogue won't pay for itself, after all... ;c)

== K