Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Mirror, mirror on the wall...


Now there is an interesting topic.

I have read, seen, and heard a lot about it. I know how concerned some are with it. I know, I feel the same way myself.

Some say it is narcissistic and in some ways I agree.

But I don't think that is the major issue on why some of us are so concerned about it.

I don't think many of us are concerned about being the prettiest girl in the room. I hear it a lot, but don't put that much stock into it. I still have my issues.

I myself am not concerned about how attractive I am. More I am concerned with how the world views me.

Here is what I think the crux of the issue is.

We are women.

Unfortunately we were not born that way.

All we want is to be just like every other woman. We want to be able to wake up in the morning. Brush our hair, pick out an average outfit, walk out the door looking just like any other women.

And we want the rest of the world to view us that way.

We don't want people pointing at us, looking questioningly at us, giggling, we just want people to accept us for the woman we feel we are.

We don't want to have to rely on an hour in front of the makeup mirror(sometimes it just isn't practical). But we don't want to be mistaken for a man. If we want to put the effort into looking good, so be it. If not we still want the world to think 'woman' when they see us. Cause that is how we think and feel.

See when your brain tells you are a woman. You feel like a woman. But you have the body of a man. One that developed in a way at puberty into a form you are not comfortable with you fight more image issues then the average person.

And I know there are people that have image issues, both men and woman. A rather small percentage of the population have perfect figures. We need to work with our issues. I know genetic girls taller then me, broader shoulders then me. But they dress to their strengths, carry themselves well, and don't have to hear too much about it.

Because they are confident in who they are.

Because no one is questioning their gender.

Which is all some of us really only want.

Which is why we concern ourselves with passing.

We don't want the rest of the world questioning our gender, because we don't.

At least not any more.


alan said...

I have read quite a few posts along similar lines of late...somehow I think that the more you go out the easier it becomes.

I certainly hope it does for so many wonderful people I've met here in this magical realm!

We all deserve "to be" without having to worry about what anyone else is thinking.