tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3018123962812490552.post7598288289545837735..comments2023-04-30T11:34:25.223-04:00Comments on The Good, The Bad, <br>and The Blonde: DilemmaKelli Bennetthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13894619011949920947noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3018123962812490552.post-30633599292554203752010-06-28T05:51:19.630-04:002010-06-28T05:51:19.630-04:00The issue isn't so much working for him. Thoug...The issue isn't so much working for him. Though he may have an issue with my function. <br /><br />No I think the thing really bothering me is still being in this in between state and having to transition in a much more public fashion. And no I cannot go work for him as me just yet.Kelli Bennetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13894619011949920947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3018123962812490552.post-46791561555669471002010-06-25T18:26:17.490-04:002010-06-25T18:26:17.490-04:00I have to agree with everyone else Kelli.
The fac...I have to agree with everyone else Kelli.<br /><br />The fact is you ARE transitioning. Since that is the constant you can either have a job with your friend or you firm. If it's with your friend, he is going to have to know at some point and after hiring would not be full disclosure. If you tell him ahead of time and he is ok with it, then you have created some financial security for yourself through transition. <br /><br />If he's not ok with it, then what difference does it make, you haven't committed to anything with him. It changes your friendship, but that may happen anyway.<br /><br />I think this is an opportunity to be honest with the no real consequences. Worst case scenario is you stay where you are. The positive potential is job security during transition. The potential positives seem to greatly outweigh the negatives here.<br /><br />Carpe Diem!<br /><br />xoxoLaura Bennetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11930242406683635520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3018123962812490552.post-5911277994516901622010-06-25T16:05:15.672-04:002010-06-25T16:05:15.672-04:00Well Kelli, it's like you said. You ARE transi...Well Kelli, it's like you said. You ARE transitioning....it's HAPPENING. You're going to have to tell him and many others soon enough. Now seems like a good time. Just my opinion of course. GL whatever you do!<br /><br /><3 JericaDebrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06752910753527115712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3018123962812490552.post-22787713972230761972010-06-25T13:47:22.170-04:002010-06-25T13:47:22.170-04:00I am new to your blog, but based on my own experie...I am new to your blog, but based on my own experience I do feel that in this case you do need to tell him what you are doing. Hopefully he is the open-minded sort and will accept the change. <br /><br />If you can be introduced to his clients as your already transitioned self it will make matters easier. They have no need to know anything about you other than your performance unless you choose to make it known.<br /><br />I was planning on transitioning on the job, but got laid off before that could happen. So I went ahead and took advantage of the down time and took care of the legal niceties. I went into my new job with my new identity and have never had a problem.Paige Madisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03295676869973661808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3018123962812490552.post-9821528843118039442010-06-25T12:44:13.726-04:002010-06-25T12:44:13.726-04:00Kelli,
This sounds like the best opportunity to b...Kelli,<br /><br />This sounds like the best opportunity to bring your friend on board. He may even tell you after you brief him on your state of affairs that, "It's the performance that matters."<br /><br />Having a skill set in-demand is something that actually aids transitioning, especially if people view you as tops in your field.<br /><br />Taking time to think about what you're going to say sounds like a wonderful plan.<br /><br />Hugs and God Bless, SophieSophie Jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00058775423288260277noreply@blogger.com